The Popularity of Open Adoption

It the past it was common for adopted children to not know they were adopted or for their files to be sealed and them to have no idea of their biological parents. Things have changed a great deal however and more and more families are choosing to do an open adoption instead.

An open adoption is beneficial because it gives both the birth-mother and adoptive parents’ access to one another before the child is born. How is this beneficial? You have to erase the traditional connotations of adoption and embrace open adoption as a more “informed” path. This style of adoption gives birth-mothers the chance to screen perspective adoptive families. She essentially chooses who her baby will go to based on a combination of her own preferences and their personal information, family history, career history and other such criteria. Once the birth-mother chooses the adoptive family they then have the opportunity to learn about the birth parents and their family’s history.


You might wonder how this information exchange changes anything or makes an open adoption more desirable. There is a great deal to be said for preparedness. When you produce your own child, you know everything about them such as who they inherited their physical traits from, possible medical concerns that run in the family and areas where they may be difficulties based on your childhood – in the past, adoptive families did not have this luxury. Open adoption gives adoptive parents the ability to learn everything about their new child, from the source. There is nothing worse than being blindsided by a chronic-condition or genetic ailment that you were entirely unprepared for.

Open adoption does come with its difficulties. Sometimes it makes parting with the child after birth more difficult for a birth-mother because she can contact the child’s new family and receive updates. In many cases this is a positive aspect of open adoption but in other cases it makes psychologically relinquishing the child to the new family difficult. Many people preferred closed adoptions in the past for its “out of sight out of mind” quality that made getting over the loss of the child easier, like quitting cold turkey. Some people need cold-turkey while others prefer the less severe alternative.

Eventually the communication between the parties may end naturally, either the birth parent has closure and is able to move on or the no longer feel the need to be updated regularly – whatever the case, depending on the situation, communication may last years after the adoption is complete or maybe just a few weeks. The best part of open adoption is that if one day the child decides that they would like to meet their biological parent(s), they will have all that information at their fingertips.

Open adoption is a great alternative for biological parents who want to have control over where their child goes and for adoptive families looking for detailed information about the child’s history. In most cases open adoption is a beneficial choice for both parties involved and eventually, one day, it will have been a great choice for that child.

This article was written by Kimberly Joler, on behalf of AdoptHelp, staying by your side through the wonderful process of adoption. To know about the steps involved in adoption, you may also visit Wisegeek.com.

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Why Single and Married Couples Consider Adoption

People usually go through the adoption process to complete their family. Some married couples aren't blessed with being able to bear children of their own. Generally, these couples are plagued with some type of reproductive issue. If they can't afford the medical treatments, they will often turn to adoption.

Infertility is the most common reason why women or couples look into adoption. Some women are born infertile, while others become infertile during the course of their lives. An infection such as Pelvic inflammatory disease can make it impossible for a woman to bear a child. This condition is caused by a form of bacteria, such as Chlamydia or gonorrhea. These infections affect the ovaries, fallopian tubes, and uterus; which are all essential parts to carrying a baby.


Some couples when considering using adoption due so in order to avoid aggravating health problems. While they may be physically able to bear children, they choose not to so they don't endanger the health or life of the mother. Some women have diseases that may be worsened by carrying and bearing a child. Two examples of this are Type 2 Diabetes, and Cardiovascular disease, which can be harmful for both a mother and unborn child. Other time's couples wait too long to start a family. They spent their lives focused on their careers, waiting for the perfect time to start a family. When they come to the realization that they waited too long, sometimes they have to turn to adoption as a last resort.

Married gay and lesbian couples are unable to have children on their own, so they have to adopt if they want to have a family. This type of adoption has become more popular in recent years as society is becoming more accepting. Some families are loving and want to open their homes to children, even if they already have a family, so they turn to adoption. Usually, these families welcome children rather than babies. They have already gone through the diaper stage and want to open their hearts to an older child. Other times, they are concerned they will have a longer wait time for a baby, because they have already been blessed with children.

Single people sometimes investigate adoption to bring a baby or child into their home. This is common with career women. They were focused on their careers and did not marry. Once they hit a certain stage in their lives, they want to start a family, and feel secure that they can do it on their own.

Some people are compassionate to issues mothers and families face in other countries. They will look to adoption agencies in third-world countries or where natural disasters have left many children orphans. When people are established and financially stable, they are able to adopt easily. Adoption agencies want to ensure that children who have been given up by their birth parent(s) are taken care of by their new parents. To do this, what agencies look for is a family that is stable and can provide a loving, healthy environment where a child will flourish with financial stability.

Whatever the reason people choose to use the adoption process; it is a very rewarding experience for both the adopter and children who are being adopted. Opening a home to a child without one is the perfect way to complete a family.

This article was written by Jennifer Poitevint, on behalf of Adopt Help, a full service domestic adoption center specializing in both independent and collaborative adoptions. To know the steps involved before you choose to adopt, you may visit About.com.

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If You Are Confused and Pregnant Adoption is a Possibility for Your Baby and You

If you are pregnant and feel that you are not ready to take care of a baby or that you are not able to provide the resources to raise your child, know that adoption is a feasible option for you and your baby. When young and pregnant or not ready and pregnant adoption is a way to take a baby that is not able to be raised the way the parent would want for her child. The baby can go to another family that gives not only the love the child deserves but also has the resources and financial stability to take care of the child for the long term, in a quality home.

It is important that you fully explore all options for you and your baby before reaching any final decisions. There are many decisions made that cannot be changed down the road and since we are talking about a baby the decisions are, quite literally, life altering; being certain is absolutely critical. Now when pregnant adoption is considered by many and explored by a large population as there are numerous parents who end up pregnant but do not believe that children are in their future; they turn to adoption to find the best parents possible for their child. There are other parents that simply cannot afford to take care of a child or are too young to take care of a child because they are not fully grown themselves.

It does not matter the motive behind the adoption, the only thing that really matters is that the girl or woman knows that, when pregnant adoption becomes something that you can explore without making any type of commitments at all, you can gather information and learn about the process as well as meet with people. Depending on the girl or woman’s personal issues and personal situation, there are many different factors that may effect her decision about using adoption for her baby. The decision to adopt or not can be reached by discussing your options with a counselor, an adoption agency, a religious authority or your parents. There are so many things to think about that should be taken seriously and it will take a while to fully decide on the right path to take.

Do not let anyone push you into a decision that you have not reached on your own. When it comes to adoption, you need to be fully on board with whatever choice you make. If you’re pregnant adoption is only one of many choices that you have. There is a plethora of loving couples out there in the world that want to love a baby of their own but for one reason or another, are unable to conceive their own child. If you want to meet couples like this, then you can do that without having to make any commitments; they also want you to be comfortable with any decision you make regarding your baby. It is very important that, as the mother, you are emotionally resolved with the decision you make regarding your pregnancy, whether it is adoption or not. The important thing is that you carefully consider the long term life of your child and if you can support him or her in the long run.

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