The Popularity of Open Adoption

It the past it was common for adopted children to not know they were adopted or for their files to be sealed and them to have no idea of their biological parents. Things have changed a great deal however and more and more families are choosing to do an open adoption instead.

An open adoption is beneficial because it gives both the birth-mother and adoptive parents’ access to one another before the child is born. How is this beneficial? You have to erase the traditional connotations of adoption and embrace open adoption as a more “informed” path. This style of adoption gives birth-mothers the chance to screen perspective adoptive families. She essentially chooses who her baby will go to based on a combination of her own preferences and their personal information, family history, career history and other such criteria. Once the birth-mother chooses the adoptive family they then have the opportunity to learn about the birth parents and their family’s history.


You might wonder how this information exchange changes anything or makes an open adoption more desirable. There is a great deal to be said for preparedness. When you produce your own child, you know everything about them such as who they inherited their physical traits from, possible medical concerns that run in the family and areas where they may be difficulties based on your childhood – in the past, adoptive families did not have this luxury. Open adoption gives adoptive parents the ability to learn everything about their new child, from the source. There is nothing worse than being blindsided by a chronic-condition or genetic ailment that you were entirely unprepared for.

Open adoption does come with its difficulties. Sometimes it makes parting with the child after birth more difficult for a birth-mother because she can contact the child’s new family and receive updates. In many cases this is a positive aspect of open adoption but in other cases it makes psychologically relinquishing the child to the new family difficult. Many people preferred closed adoptions in the past for its “out of sight out of mind” quality that made getting over the loss of the child easier, like quitting cold turkey. Some people need cold-turkey while others prefer the less severe alternative.

Eventually the communication between the parties may end naturally, either the birth parent has closure and is able to move on or the no longer feel the need to be updated regularly – whatever the case, depending on the situation, communication may last years after the adoption is complete or maybe just a few weeks. The best part of open adoption is that if one day the child decides that they would like to meet their biological parent(s), they will have all that information at their fingertips.

Open adoption is a great alternative for biological parents who want to have control over where their child goes and for adoptive families looking for detailed information about the child’s history. In most cases open adoption is a beneficial choice for both parties involved and eventually, one day, it will have been a great choice for that child.

This article was written by Kimberly Joler, on behalf of AdoptHelp, staying by your side through the wonderful process of adoption. To know about the steps involved in adoption, you may also visit Wisegeek.com.

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